♦ Aren’t we all a bunch of prudes? It sometimes seems like it.  Despite the claims of ’sexing up’ on TV, in films, in the media and in shops, despite tabloid prurience, despite free Internet porn and an Ann Summers on every high street, sex is still a big taboo. You should certainly be having it, Cosmopolitan makes that clear, but if you are you definitely shouldn’t talk about it. Or go too wild with it. Or do anything unusual.

Dominating, submitting, switching, whipping, tying up, begging, punishing, these are things not to be idly discussed in your everyday life. Even these days people will blush, stare and clam up. This blog is a chance for me to ramble on freely about things which I cannot in the dreaded land of ‘RL’. And, if anyone should ever read it, I hope they’ll find it interesting, titillating in places and hopefully inspiring to try out new things and talk about them.

This blog is my call to revel in being sexy, in sex, in experimenting and in being able to talk freely about what it is that you get up to and what blows your hair back ♦

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♦ I’m a 23-year-old languages graduate working for a major company in Wales, UK. I have a lover who I’ve been with for two years, who I shall call Fractal for anonymity’s sake and who fully supports this blog because he’s a kinky bugger like me. We now live together after quite a long period of long distance and are immensely happy. We have an open relationship and are both free to play with others. He was my first. And he has been the one to start all of this. Before him I was ashamed of my sexuality, I felt guilty touching myself, thinking of sex. Now I revel in it, he showed me love, sex, BDSM, confidence, kink, changed me for the better.

We’re both switches, though I have discovered I’ve a tendency to heavily prefer submission. I guess I just like being someone’s little slut. I am also bisexual, this is a fairly recent discovery for me, something which I came to understand through Fractal’s support and now fully embrace.

I dislike modern feminism. I don’t believe in whining about inequality, I don’t believe in the patriarchy, but I also can’t stand being judged based on my sex. I am a tomboy. It was only in the last year or so that I started wearing skirts at all. I like typically boys’ things. I’m a geek. But I’ve recently, side-by-side with my rise in confidence, begun to allow myself more girlitude: sexy underwear, make-up.

I also draw things, recently of a more sexy nature, some of which I hope to put up here alongside the rest of the smut ;) ♦