♦ Sex is everywhere and nowhere. Despite cries of “there’s too much sex on TV these days!”, porn mags, an Ann Summers on every high street and the dark depths of Teh Intarweb, sex is still really rather taboo. And this is at least twice as bad when the sex in question is at all of a kinky nature.

Dominating, submitting, switching, whipping, tying up, begging, punishing, these are things not to be idly discussed in your everyday life. Even these days people will blush, stare and clam up. This blog is a chance for me to ramble on freely about things which I cannot in the dreaded land of ‘RL’. And, if anyone should ever read it, I hope they’ll find it interesting, titillating in places and hopefully inspiring to try out new things and talk about them.

This blog is my call to revel in being sexy, in sex, in experimenting and in being able to talk freely about what it is that you get up to and what blows your hair back.

I’m a 22-year-old university student in Wales, UK. I have a lover of one year, who I shall call Fractal for anonymity’s sake, and who fully supports this blog because he’s a kinky bugger like me. He currently is away studying in another city, but we visit each other every fortnight. He was also my first. And he has been the one to start all of this. Before him I was ashamed of my sexuality, I felt guilty touching myself, thinking of sex. Now I revel in it, he showed me love, sex, BDSM, confidence, kink, changed me for the better.

We’re both switches, though I have discovered I’ve a tendency to prefer submission. I have also slowly been allowing my bisexuality to surface to the point where I can now admit to myself, and probably to others if questioned: yes, I’m sexually attracted to laaaadies.

I dislike modern feminism, in fact I have a rather low opinion of women in general, though this is not overly strong, I like specific women rather a bit. My female friends, whilst being ‘big girls’, are decent sorts. I don’t believe in whining about inequality, I don’t believe in the patriarchy, but I also can’t stand being judged based on my sex, and I am muchly addicted to the blog of Bitchy Jones who is a strong feminist.

I am a tomboy. It was only last year that I started wearing skirts at all. I like typically boys’ things. I’m a geek. But I’ve recently, side-by-side with my rise in confidence, begun to allow myself more girlitude: sexy underwear, make-up.

I draw things, recently of a more sexy nature, some of which I hope to put up here, if they won’t break my anonymity.

Welcome to Blacksilk’s Boudoir! ♦